...the love you take is equal to the love you make. -John Lennon, Paul McCartney
Lennon and McCartney notwithstanding, wouldn't you hate to find that the love you receive in this life is exactly in proportion to that which you give?
How would that work in your marriage, do you think?
Ever spoken hastily to a friend? Ever received loving forgiveness in reply?
Quid pro quo is, I suppose, useful for conducting negotiations, producing legislation, or other areas where a consensus is desired.
But to be involved in a truly loving relationship, mustn't we willing to give without promise of return? To put ourselves out there for the other is, I believe, the essence of love.
And in the end, actually, it's not at all about the love we take, but that love we give, freely, desiring the good of the beloved.
It is, in one sense, the essence of our salvation:
But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. -Romans 5:8
Having been forgiven much, should we not wish to love much?
The idea, don't you believe, behind our thoughts and attitudes.
The ideal toward which we strive.